Why is it so hard to let go?
Living life, we often find ourselves holding on to things that no longer serve us—whether they be relationships, habits, beliefs, or even possessions. Letting go can feel really difficult, but it is one of the most liberating experiences we can gift ourselves. As a spiritual life coach, I often see clients struggle with this process, primarily because of the conflict between the ego and the soul. Understanding this conflict is key to mastering the art of release.
What is the Ego?
The ego is sometimes called the clinger and is a part of our identity that thrives on attachment. It feeds off of control, fear, and the need to be right. The ego clings to the past and worries about the future. It convinces us that if we just hold on a little longer, things will change, or perhaps we can force them to. The ego’s attachment is rooted in the fear of the unknown, and it sees letting go as a threat to its very existence.
When we listen to the ego, we might find ourselves saying things like:
"What if I never find another relationship like this?"
"If I let go, I’ll lose everything I’ve worked for."
"I need this to feel secure."
The ego’s attachment is rooted in fear—fear of the unknown, fear of loss, and fear of vulnerability. It convinces us that holding on is the safer option, even when we know deep down that it’s time to release.
What is the Soul?
In contrast, the soul often called, The Seeker of Freedom, is our true essence. It is the part of us that is connected to the divine, to the infinite wisdom and love of the universe. The soul is not interested in attachments because it knows that true freedom lies in letting go. The soul understands that life is a continuous flow of energy, and in order to grow, we must release what no longer serves us.
The soul whispers to us through our intuition, gently encouraging us to trust the process of letting go. It says:
"Release what is holding you back, and you will find peace."
"Trust that something better is waiting for you."
"You are already whole and complete without these attachments."
The soul knows that by letting go, we create space for new opportunities, relationships, and experiences that are more aligned with our true purpose.
The Art of Letting Go
Letting go is not about giving up; it’s about surrendering to the natural flow of life. It’s about trusting that when we release what no longer serves us, we make room for growth, healing, and new beginnings.
Acknowledge the Attachment:
The first step is to recognize what you are holding onto and why. Is it out of fear, comfort, or a sense of obligation? Understanding the root of your attachment is crucial.
Listen to Your Soul: Tune into your intuition. What is your inner voice telling you? Often, we already know deep down what needs to be released; we just need to listen.
Embrace the Unknown: Letting go often means stepping into uncertainty. Trust that the universe has a plan for you, and that by releasing the old, you are making space for something better.
Practice Forgiveness: Letting go is often accompanied by the need to forgive—ourselves or others. Holding onto resentment or guilt only ties us to the past. Forgiveness is a powerful tool for release.
Celebrate the Process: Letting go is a courageous act. Celebrate each step you take towards freedom, no matter how small.
Remember, letting go is not a one-time event but an ongoing practice. Each time you release something that no longer serves you, you are taking a step closer to living in alignment with your highest self. So, take a deep breath, trust the process, and let go—freedom awaits. I LOVE YOU, Nicole Mirembe
